men are discontent & hard to please - m4m - 28 (tenderloin)
The one whose flattery is a neverending string of empty-promise emails; the married straight man who everyone knows is gay; the type who only email you to furnish a pathetic list of reasons why they're not what you're looking for, which leaves you wondering why they even bother since denying interest without being asked obviously shows that they are interested; the jerks...the ones who email you, a perfect stranger, only to mock you and tell you how badly-written your personals ad was, and to call you maudeline and pitiful just for being a single adult looking for love; the one who always talks about wanting to go out on a date, but is too cowardly to actually ask; the one who actually asks, but then unfairly judges every facet of you based on first-date jitters, not even giving you the credit of a more relaxed second-date; the occasional preacher type who responds to your personals posting to tell you about Jesus and how he can help you to "see the light;" then, ahh yes, there are the sociopaths who pretend to assume the transparent identity of being exactly what your ad says you're looking for, when all they're really after is first-date sex; and then there are the annoying types who do one of two things: they write to you, only to later on ~ after having picqued your interest in them ~ say that they're just not ready for a relationship because they dare to compare you to their rotten exes, or, they types who write to you, get you kind of excited and giddy about them, and then he confesses he's already seeing someone, but "best of luck to you."
Believe me, I've met them all...well, maybe not "met" per se; rather, they're all emailed me at some point or another. I've come to the inevitable conclusion that men simply don't know what they want. Now granted, a lot of the men out there know what they want out of life, in a career, etc., but nearly none of them really truly know what they want as far as relationships are concerned, with the exclusive exception of being certain of their sexual orientation.
But I say that most men, if not all men, don't know what they really want because it seems that most men are always emotionally restless...we, as men, are wired to always be looking for something better to come along, no matter how good of a thing we've got going at the present time; that "sure thing," as they used to say. Men are, especially while IN A RELATIONSHIP, usually the FIRST ONES to feel lonely, even while still with their partners. And yet, whether they choose to look for that "sure thing," that "something better," secretly hiding their extracurricular proclivities from their significant others, or whether they choose the lesser of two evils and breakup with who are they're with on the premise that they're not right for each other, almost all men find reasons to shoot-down the guys they date, even when they seem right. Why? Who knows. One guy told me I was perfect for him, except that he only date men who are blonde-haired and blue-eyed...what a nazi. ROFLMAO:) Jeez, right?! Sheesh man...for some guys, it's all about looks and hey, if you look like a guy who stepped right out of the pages of an Abercrombie & Fitch catalogue, then you're first on their list. Some guys, it's a little about looks, but mostly about body type. For others, it's about age. For the eccentric gay man, it doesn't matter how much you have in common or how well you get along...you're an Aquarius and they're a Scorpio: "Honey, I just DON'T DATE Aqauarians." (Ohhhh-kaaaay)
What is for me, that I go off of most? Usually whether or not we're close enough in age, distance, and whether or not we click. Typically my line is drawn is at no one 10 yrs. - or 10 yrs. + than me, but I've been known to stretch it for the rare exceptions. Body type doesn't matter as much to me as does if he respects his body and takes good care of himself. Other deal-breakers for me are simple: If he does drugs; if he's HIV+; if he's married, straight, or otherwise in some kind of relationship. Yadda, yadda, yadda. I could go on and on, but the point is, I'm into giving people a chance. Are you?
My name is Micah...talk to me:)
The one whose flattery is a neverending string of empty-promise emails; the married straight man who everyone knows is gay; the type who only email you to furnish a pathetic list of reasons why they're not what you're looking for, which leaves you wondering why they even bother since denying interest without being asked obviously shows that they are interested; the jerks...the ones who email you, a perfect stranger, only to mock you and tell you how badly-written your personals ad was, and to call you maudeline and pitiful just for being a single adult looking for love; the one who always talks about wanting to go out on a date, but is too cowardly to actually ask; the one who actually asks, but then unfairly judges every facet of you based on first-date jitters, not even giving you the credit of a more relaxed second-date; the occasional preacher type who responds to your personals posting to tell you about Jesus and how he can help you to "see the light;" then, ahh yes, there are the sociopaths who pretend to assume the transparent identity of being exactly what your ad says you're looking for, when all they're really after is first-date sex; and then there are the annoying types who do one of two things: they write to you, only to later on ~ after having picqued your interest in them ~ say that they're just not ready for a relationship because they dare to compare you to their rotten exes, or, they types who write to you, get you kind of excited and giddy about them, and then he confesses he's already seeing someone, but "best of luck to you."
Believe me, I've met them all...well, maybe not "met" per se; rather, they're all emailed me at some point or another. I've come to the inevitable conclusion that men simply don't know what they want. Now granted, a lot of the men out there know what they want out of life, in a career, etc., but nearly none of them really truly know what they want as far as relationships are concerned, with the exclusive exception of being certain of their sexual orientation.
But I say that most men, if not all men, don't know what they really want because it seems that most men are always emotionally restless...we, as men, are wired to always be looking for something better to come along, no matter how good of a thing we've got going at the present time; that "sure thing," as they used to say. Men are, especially while IN A RELATIONSHIP, usually the FIRST ONES to feel lonely, even while still with their partners. And yet, whether they choose to look for that "sure thing," that "something better," secretly hiding their extracurricular proclivities from their significant others, or whether they choose the lesser of two evils and breakup with who are they're with on the premise that they're not right for each other, almost all men find reasons to shoot-down the guys they date, even when they seem right. Why? Who knows. One guy told me I was perfect for him, except that he only date men who are blonde-haired and blue-eyed...what a nazi. ROFLMAO:) Jeez, right?! Sheesh man...for some guys, it's all about looks and hey, if you look like a guy who stepped right out of the pages of an Abercrombie & Fitch catalogue, then you're first on their list. Some guys, it's a little about looks, but mostly about body type. For others, it's about age. For the eccentric gay man, it doesn't matter how much you have in common or how well you get along...you're an Aquarius and they're a Scorpio: "Honey, I just DON'T DATE Aqauarians." (Ohhhh-kaaaay)
What is for me, that I go off of most? Usually whether or not we're close enough in age, distance, and whether or not we click. Typically my line is drawn is at no one 10 yrs. - or 10 yrs. + than me, but I've been known to stretch it for the rare exceptions. Body type doesn't matter as much to me as does if he respects his body and takes good care of himself. Other deal-breakers for me are simple: If he does drugs; if he's HIV+; if he's married, straight, or otherwise in some kind of relationship. Yadda, yadda, yadda. I could go on and on, but the point is, I'm into giving people a chance. Are you?
My name is Micah...talk to me:)
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